Comments on: Grief http://meganframpton.com/2009/11/03/grief/ Frampton Comes Alive! Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:50:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Megan http://meganframpton.com/2009/11/03/grief/#comment-5189 Megan Fri, 06 Nov 2009 22:27:21 +0000 http://meganframpton.com/?p=2418#comment-5189 Wendy, I agree (!!!!). I think someone else said it originally, but of course I remember him saying it when editing copy. Not mine, of course (ahem!) Myretta: Yes, definitely. I am so happy to have had him. Tara: I am sorry to hear about your dad. My dad's passing was very sudden, so I didn't have that same waiting, which I actually (in hindsight) think was better than if he had fallen ill. My dad was a very bad patient. Best hopes and wishes to your dad. Wendy, I agree (!!!!). I think someone else said it originally, but of course I remember him saying it when editing copy. Not mine, of course (ahem!)

Myretta:

Yes, definitely. I am so happy to have had him.

Tara:

I am sorry to hear about your dad. My dad’s passing was very sudden, so I didn’t have that same waiting, which I actually (in hindsight) think was better than if he had fallen ill. My dad was a very bad patient. Best hopes and wishes to your dad.

]]> By: Tara Marie http://meganframpton.com/2009/11/03/grief/#comment-5188 Tara Marie Fri, 06 Nov 2009 11:30:30 +0000 http://meganframpton.com/?p=2418#comment-5188 I didn't realize your dad passed away during my hiatus. I'm so sorry. I read this a few days ago and had a good cry for you. My dad has not been well for several years, and we as a family are thankful for each day, week, holiday, year we get. I didn’t realize your dad passed away during my hiatus. I’m so sorry. I read this a few days ago and had a good cry for you. My dad has not been well for several years, and we as a family are thankful for each day, week, holiday, year we get.

]]> By: Myretta http://meganframpton.com/2009/11/03/grief/#comment-5186 Myretta Wed, 04 Nov 2009 22:55:34 +0000 http://meganframpton.com/?p=2418#comment-5186 You had the great gift of a father whom you miss. Although there is grief, that is also a reason for giving thanks, no? You had the great gift of a father whom you miss. Although there is grief, that is also a reason for giving thanks, no?

]]> By: Wendy http://meganframpton.com/2009/11/03/grief/#comment-5185 Wendy Wed, 04 Nov 2009 15:54:46 +0000 http://meganframpton.com/?p=2418#comment-5185 I imagine that Novembers will be hard for a while. I wanted to say that I love what your Dad said about exclamation points - "only if the universe is on fire!" LOL That probably needs to be put on T-shirts and given out wholesale to some writers :) I imagine that Novembers will be hard for a while.

I wanted to say that I love what your Dad said about exclamation points - “only if the universe is on fire!” LOL That probably needs to be put on T-shirts and given out wholesale to some writers :)

]]> By: Megan http://meganframpton.com/2009/11/03/grief/#comment-5184 Megan Wed, 04 Nov 2009 15:01:15 +0000 http://meganframpton.com/?p=2418#comment-5184 Amanda(2): Thanks for coming by. Your friend's death sounds even more unexpected than my dad's, who at least had the excuse of age and hard living. I do exactly as you say, too, reminding my son of Grandpa Jeff, and what he used to say, and do, and that he gave him certain things. I do know he lives on for us, and a lot of the groundwork he did in his life continues on after his death. Thanks. Amanda(2): Thanks for coming by. Your friend’s death sounds even more unexpected than my dad’s, who at least had the excuse of age and hard living. I do exactly as you say, too, reminding my son of Grandpa Jeff, and what he used to say, and do, and that he gave him certain things. I do know he lives on for us, and a lot of the groundwork he did in his life continues on after his death. Thanks.

]]> By: Amanda http://meganframpton.com/2009/11/03/grief/#comment-5182 Amanda Wed, 04 Nov 2009 01:27:06 +0000 http://meganframpton.com/?p=2418#comment-5182 It's been three years since my childhood friend fell to his death from a waterfall. The first two months were unbearably hard that I couldn't stand being out alone by myself for long, because he'd be everywhere in my thoughts and his shadow still populating the world we grew up in. I feel that I'm still the only one who remembers him; other friends act like I'm insane for still hurting this badly when I think of him. However, I also believe the dead aren't really gone (is that better than "lost"?) until everyone forgets them. So I will continue to speak of him and try to describe his eccentrics in a way that he'll live for others. I don't know if I'll ever get there. He was that special. So don't forget to tell your son about what your dad would've said in everyday situations and do for your son what your father would have wanted to do with him. Sing him into your son's memories so he doesn't feel that his grandpa left him. It’s been three years since my childhood friend fell to his death from a waterfall. The first two months were unbearably hard that I couldn’t stand being out alone by myself for long, because he’d be everywhere in my thoughts and his shadow still populating the world we grew up in. I feel that I’m still the only one who remembers him; other friends act like I’m insane for still hurting this badly when I think of him.

However, I also believe the dead aren’t really gone (is that better than “lost”?) until everyone forgets them. So I will continue to speak of him and try to describe his eccentrics in a way that he’ll live for others. I don’t know if I’ll ever get there. He was that special.

So don’t forget to tell your son about what your dad would’ve said in everyday situations and do for your son what your father would have wanted to do with him. Sing him into your son’s memories so he doesn’t feel that his grandpa left him.

]]> By: Kwana http://meganframpton.com/2009/11/03/grief/#comment-5181 Kwana Tue, 03 Nov 2009 18:15:32 +0000 http://meganframpton.com/?p=2418#comment-5181 You're very right. November will be hard for you as will every reminder. Time doesn't make it easier just more manageable. I sill have the same pain when dealing with my grandfather who was like my father and with my brother's death and it's going on so many years now. I have a strange way of not remembering dates so one up for me but everyday is a date I remember, so boo to that. You will get though with the fond memories and be grateful that you have many. You’re very right. November will be hard for you as will every reminder. Time doesn’t make it easier just more manageable. I sill have the same pain when dealing with my grandfather who was like my father and with my brother’s death and it’s going on so many years now. I have a strange way of not remembering dates so one up for me but everyday is a date I remember, so boo to that. You will get though with the fond memories and be grateful that you have many.

]]> By: Megan Frampton http://meganframpton.com/2009/11/03/grief/#comment-5180 Megan Frampton Tue, 03 Nov 2009 17:53:00 +0000 http://meganframpton.com/?p=2418#comment-5180 Amanda, thanks for commenting. I am grateful to have gotten my dad for so long, but bummed he won't get to hear my son ask who Gilgamesh was (like he did last night) or have a second piece of pie at Thanksgiving. I am glad to know it's not weird that I feel this way. Amanda, thanks for commenting. I am grateful to have gotten my dad for so long, but bummed he won’t get to hear my son ask who Gilgamesh was (like he did last night) or have a second piece of pie at Thanksgiving. I am glad to know it’s not weird that I feel this way.

]]> By: Amanda http://meganframpton.com/2009/11/03/grief/#comment-5179 Amanda Tue, 03 Nov 2009 17:47:46 +0000 http://meganframpton.com/?p=2418#comment-5179 Thank you for this post. I lost my father over ten years ago when I was just seventeen years old. It still hurts every year around his birthday and around April, which is the month he died. I tend to pull out old pictures and reminisce or listen to music he liked. I hate that he never got to meet my husband because I think they would have gotten along so well. While November will be sad I hope that you will remember some great moments and times you had with your dad. Thank you for this post. I lost my father over ten years ago when I was just seventeen years old. It still hurts every year around his birthday and around April, which is the month he died. I tend to pull out old pictures and reminisce or listen to music he liked. I hate that he never got to meet my husband because I think they would have gotten along so well. While November will be sad I hope that you will remember some great moments and times you had with your dad.

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